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Processing your emotions with clarity during divorce

71052770_S.jpgOnce you have taken the first steps to divorce your spouse, your future may seem bleak as you navigate the complexities of putting a significant relationship behind you and moving forward independently. At Stange Law Firm PC, we are committed to helping people in Kansas to work through their divorce as efficiently as possible. 

Facing the uncertainty of your future and the range of emotions that accompany such significant change is going to require you to actively acknowledge and feel everything. Ignoring strong emotions or compressing your feelings may only complicate your healing and lengthen the time it takes for you to move beyond your relationship. One way to work toward emotional stability is to understand the processes for managing your emotions in ways that are healthy and productive. 

How can you relocate with your kids?

73219300_S.jpgYou might view the finalizing of your divorce agreement as the end of your proceedings. In reality, however, changes in both yours and your ex-spouse's individual circumstances could very require you to revisit your case once again. Say that you decide to move away from Wichita (either to take another job or to simply move on with your life far away from your ex-spouse). If you have or share custody of your children, you likely will want to take them with you. Yet how are you expected to handle a relocation in light of your custody agreement

You cannot simply move away with your kids. If you do so, Section 23-3222(b) of Kansas' Family Law Code says that you can be held in contempt of court. Rather, you must provide your ex-spouse with written notice of your intention at least 30 days prior to your move. This applies to anytime you change your child's residence (even if it is within your current city). You must also provide your ex-spouse with such notice if you plan on taking your children out of state for more than 90 days. 

The importance of dads in a child's well-being

31635281_S.jpgIf you are a father facing a divorce in Kansas with one or more children, you will no doubt want to find out how you can remain connected to your children during and after your divorce. Even if you and your to-be former spouse are able to cooperate positively to reach agreements on how you will divide up your marital assets, the topic of how to share time with your kids can be a difficult one.

One thing you should remain convinced of is how important you are to the healthy development of your children. According to Focus on the Family, there is a large body of research that points to the long-term benefits of a child's well-being when the father is an active part of raising them. One sociologist from Rutgers University explains that some of this is due to the inherently different ways women and men parent.

Why is genetic information important to your child?

43852671_S.jpgSome Kansas fathers may be pondering whether legally establishing their paternity is a good idea. If you are in this position, you should know that having the state recognize your parentage gives your child access to information about your family's genetic history. If your child can learn about your genetic background, your child will be better informed to make crucial life decisions.

The National Center for Biotechnology Information website explains that genetic information reveals the kinds of diseases and health conditions that run in a person's family. If your child has access to this information, he or she can learn about possible risks of developing a certain ailment, such as type 2 diabetes or a form of cancer. Also, your offspring may understand what kinds of diseases their own children may be at risk of.

When might the Kansas courts change a child's primary residence?

63161309_S.jpgIf you are like most divorcees, your situation today looks drastically different than it did when you first got divorced one, two or ten years ago. This means that your former court agreements, such as your Kansas child custody agreement, may no longer apply to your circumstances, and you may wish to seek a modification. Before you petition to modify a custody order, however, you must first understand why the state decided custody the way it did in the first place and when it will allow for a change.

According to the Kansas Bar Association, the Kansas courts will award one of four types of custody to a parent or parents: joint, sole, divided or non-parental. Joint custody means that both parents have a say in major decisions regarding the child's upbringing. In most joint custody arrangements, the child will live primarily with one parent and spend time with the other on weekends and select weekday nights. In a few cases, the child may split time with both parents equally. The courts favor joint custody arrangements over all others.

Steps to positive co-parenting

20772705_S.jpgFor divorcing parents in Kansas, the thought of working collaboratively with their former partner can seem all but impossible. However, this is exactly what is needed in order to raise children after a divorce. A high level of consciousness is required in making this happen and that can include reminding oneself of some guidelines along the way.

Very Well Family recommends that parents find a way to both develop a schedule that maps out when kids will be with each parent but simultaneously leave the door open for changes that may be needed at times. This type of flexibility may be necessitated by a change in the child's schedule or activities, the illness of a parent or other family member or more. Regardless of the reason, accommodating life's unexpected happenings with grace can help teach children how to do this as well.

Paternity cases: what's in a name?

62159843_S.jpgWhen two unmarried parents decide to end their relationship, it is still necessary to make legal provisions for the support and custody of their children, just as it is to make similar provisions for the children of married parents who decide to divorce. It is common for attorneys to refer to the former type of proceeding as a paternity case. We at Stange Law Firm know that, as a father involved in a paternity case in Kansas, you probably have many questions regarding how the legal arrangements pertaining to the split will affect your children and your relationship with them. 

One question you may have that may cause an issue between you and your former partner pertains to your child's last name. The question that often arises is whether the child will bear your last name or that of his or her mother. 

Including the cost of daycare in child support

47972333_S.jpgForegoing your career ambitions to stay home and raise your kids in Wichita may be a sacrifice that you are perfectly willing to make. Yet what happens, then, if you and your spouse subsequently choose to get a divorce? The simple answer is that you re-enter the workforce. Yet if your kids are still at an age where they require consistent adult supervision, that may be difficult. Daycare quickly becomes a necessity, yet its costs can be high. Thus, many in your same situation come to us here at the Stange Law Firm PC asking if sharing such costs can be included in their divorce agreements. 

Information compiled by the Boston Globe shows the average cost of daycare in Kansas to be over $10,500 annually. If you do not yet have gainful employment, affording those costs may be next to impossible. Yet you need not worry; the court considers many factors beyond simply paying for the rooming and boarding of your children when determining child support. 

Remember your estate plan when getting divorced

40341353_S.jpgIf you and your spouse in Kansas have been struggling with marital difficulties and finally decided that divorce is the right option for you, you know that there are many decisions you will now have to make. Certainly, there are numerous immediate decisions you must address such as where you will live, who will the kids be with on what days and how you will tell friends and family members about your divorce.

In addition to these things, you should not forget about other decisions that may have long-lasting effects on your life and your financial assets and future. When it comes to estate planning documents, Forbes indicates that there are some things you may be able to update as soon as you and your spouse separate or file for divorce. One example of such a document may be your advanced health care directive which allows another person to make medical decisions on your behalf should you become unable to do so. 

Both parents arrested in custody dispute

67068002_S.jpgIt may be of little surprise that child custody proceedings in Wichita can become heated. The hope is that divorcing parents can put aside any negative feelings that they might have for each other and work together to come up with an amicable arrangement that truly is in their kids' best interests. However, given the emotion that parents feel towards their children, expecting them to remain agreeable when their time with their kids appears threatened may be unrealistic. However, both parents involved in a custody dispute will both realize that any rash actions they may take might ultimately only impact their own chances of securing a favorable ruling. 

In many cases where divorcing parents resort to drastic measures to try and keep their kid, they are the only ones who are panelized. Yet on rare occasions, both parents may be. That could certainly be in store for a New Jersey couple after both were arrested following a dispute over the custody of their daughter. Authorities were called in to investigate the abduction of a little girl by her father. He was later located in a nearby building and, after a long standoff with authorities, surrendered himself. Further investigation revealed that the child's mother (who had contacted the police), had actually assisted the father in fleeing from authorities in an earlier encounter. Now, both parents face criminal charges. 

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